It’s been a long time since I added anything to this blog – 363 days to be precise. I haven’t read what I wrote last January. I’m certain it was full of good intentions, resolutions and plans. I’m equally certain I achieved none of it and I don’t need to remind myself of that.
How was 2019 for you? My year was full of ups and downs. The ups were fabulous and – on a good day – I know how fortunate I am. Unfortunately it feels like I had more downs than ups, and that has cast a cloud over the whole year. I don’t want to dwell on it, I’d rather look forward. But that puts me in a bit of a quandry.
I want to be positive about the new year. It is full of shiny new days, with the prospect of new adventures, of endless possibilities. The places I could go and the things I could do – maybe I should make a list. On the other hand, 2020 could be full of tripping hazards and pitfalls, missed opportunities and failure. Do I really want to set myself up for that. It’s easy enough to feel disappointed in myself without giving myself a tick list I’ll never match up to.
So, this year I have made a conscious decision NOT to make any resolutions that have firm targets attached. I’m not going to plan to walk a certain number of steps each day or to lose a particular amount of weight each month. There will be no word count targets, no forcing myself to write a certain number of times every week, no promises to keep this blog up to date. All of those things would be nice, but I know how unlikely it is that I would keep them. Instead I am making just a few, more general, suggestions which I hope will increase the number of ‘ups’ I experience in the next few months.
- Try to be kind. It’s not always easy, but this world needs more kindness and I will try not to add to the noisy, negative and nasty.
- Try not to shut myself away. Not responding to emails, Facebook messages, Tweets, invitations, etc is too easy. Ignoring people who love me is not kind – not to them and not to me.
- Try to do one positive thing each day. It may be a domestic task that makes our home a more pleasant place to be. It may be something for my own physical, mental or emotional wellbeing. It doesn’t have to be big – just something I can look back on at bedtime and think – I did that.
There is one thing I have already started to do which will help me with all three of these suggestions. On Facebook I found a group called Postcards of Kindness where members of the public write postcards and send them to the residents of residential care homes and dementia groups. It is not a huge commitment in terms of time, energy, effort or cash but, from the comments I see posted, it makes a huge difference to the people who receive the cards. Reading and sharing the postcards encourages discussion and combats loneliness. Many homes use them to make displays – a colourful addition to some rather institutional-looking walls. Why not give it a go?
I don’t know what you have planned for 2020, but whatever it is, be kind. Especially, be kind to yourself. You’re worth it.